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Can We Forgive Cheating?
By: Marius Gherghinescu

When it comes to infidelity there are different opinions. Some believe in giving another chance, others reject the idea.

Well, it's true that when you discover this you feel devastated, you think that your relationship is over and try to discover whose fault it is. The answer will probably be useless. What is a fact is that it really happened; you discovered this and now the difficult part follows. You must decide whether you forgive him or not...what made him do this...does he still love you?

What can you do?

First, you need to talk seriously about it and try to see what he really thinks, if he wants to pass over it, if he regrets it or not (in this particular case the end is near) and you need to settle the future. Do not consider others opinion who say ''once a cheater, always a cheater''. Maybe it was only one. Maybe it just happened, maybe...

If he tells you that he loves you (he also needs to prove it) and you feel the same for him, you must definitely meditate upon your decision.

There are the following possibilities:

1. Break up with him

...and for a period, stay alone and cry, get the idea that all men are cheaters and start dating again with the whole embarrassing package like ''Is it Ok to have sex on the first date?''. Or maybe you are a strong woman and pass over it more quickly than anyone can imagine.

2. You forgive him

...and let the thing in the past but you watch over him. If you decide to forgive him, you must tell him that you need some time to trust him again, you don't have to discuss about this every day (even if you feel like it) because it will lead to fights.